Stop Being So Hard on Yourself: Five Reasons To Celebrate Physicians

If you’re like many physicians, it may be easy to lose sight of your value. Healthcare today faces unprecedented challenges and stressors, and it’s sometimes hard not to take it personally.

Physicians in particular are some of the worst at self-flagellation. It’s common to feel frustrated and disappointed when you feel as if you haven’t lived up to your own ideals, or those that are imposed on you. Some days it can seem as if being a doctor is a thankless task. Doctor’s Day comes once a year, but your work is never done. So I’d like to share five reasons that you deserve to be appreciated and celebrated every day.

You Want to Do Good in the World

Medical practice is a field that naturally attracts individuals who are both highly intelligent as well as driven by a desire to impact the world positively. But wanting to do good and actually doing the work are two very different things. You do the work. Although your efforts may not always be acknowledged, your actions, big and small, directly affect the health and well-being of your patients and your community.

You Do Hard Things Every Day

Physicians face an array of challenges daily, from navigating complex medical and social issues to making life-saving decisions under pressure. On top of that, societal, economic, and administrative pressures may add levels of frustration that test your empathy and determination. The work of a physician requires an extraordinary level of resilience and fortitude, especially when, despite your best efforts, things don’t always turn out as you’d hoped or expected. It is no exaggeration to say that this level of commitment and grit far exceeds that of most other professions.

You Are Passionate About Your Work

Passion is the lifeblood of innovation and motivation. Physicians often pursue their profession because of a deep-seated passion for healing and discovery. This enthusiasm is often what spurs you to continually learn, grow, and push the boundaries of what is medically possible. Even on days where you feel less than enthusiastic, your years of focus and commitment drive you to do your best work.

You Come from All Walks of Life

Each physician comes to the profession with a unique array of backgrounds and experiences. Whether you come from a rural town or a large urban community, from a US metroplex or a country thousands of miles away, each physician carries a distinctive set of perspectives and skills. This diversity enhances your ability to connect with and care for a wide range of patients with a rich mix of cultures and viewpoints.

You Are a Change-Maker

Physicians are often at the forefront of change, not only in their clinics or hospitals but also in the broader context. Collectively, you have the power to initiate significant health policy reforms, improve patient care standards, and lead community health initiatives. What you do makes a difference in ways, big and small, that ripple out into the world.

As a doctor, you are not just a healthcare provider or a widget in a faceless system. You are a resilient, passionate, and dedicated professional committed to making the world a better place, one patient at a time. Most importantly, the work you do matters.

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What if You Don’t Know What You Want Next: A Physician’s Guide to Finding Direction

As a physician, you've dedicated years of your life to the practice of medicine. You spend the better part of your waking hours staying current on the latest research, honing your skills, serving your patients with compassion and care, and collaborating with your colleagues and staff.

But, like many doctors, there may come a time in your professional trajectory when you feel a need for change and a yearning for something different. Maybe you feel stuck, unfulfilled, or underappreciated. Or perhaps you simply crave a change of scenery.

In this article, I’ll give you some strategies that will help you to gain clarity and direction when you’re not sure what you want next.

Sometimes the direction to take is crystal clear, but it can often be difficult to envision what that change should or could look like. From medical school to residency and beyond, your path up to this point has probably been clearly marked. As you reached one milestone, the next was likely in view.

It can be comforting to know where you are going next, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself longing for a shift in your professional life that doesn’t conform to the well-worn trail. Whether you're considering changing the way you practice, adjusting your working hours, exploring opportunities outside of clinical medicine, or even contemplating retirement, the uncertainty can be daunting.

Change is often uncomfortable and unsettling, especially when you’re blazing your own path. It's essential to remember that this feeling of ambiguity is a natural part of any career evolution. It’s easy to get stuck at this point, instead of recognizing that this period of contemplation is the first step in a new direction.

Although it’s important to think things through, I’m a firm believer in the adage that action creates clarity. Action however, does not have to mean commitment or a big shift. Giving yourself time and space to actively explore what is possible can make your next steps more clear.

If you’re feeling like you’ve come to a standstill, here are some ideas that can help pull you out of the rut and find some serious traction that will move you forward.

1. Reflect on Your Values and Goals

Take some time to reflect on what truly matters to you, both personally and professionally. What are your core values? Have you identified specific long-term personal and career goals?

Understanding what drives you and what you hope to achieve can provide valuable insight into the direction you should take. If you’re unclear on how to express your personal values, my Values Workbook can help.

2. Assess Your Skills and Interests

Consider your strengths, skills, and areas of interest outside of medicine. Are there particular aspects of your current practice that you enjoy the most? Are there skills you possess that you haven't had the opportunity to fully utilize? Or maybe you’re curious about acquiring new expertise.

Exploring these ideas can help you identify potential career paths that align with your strengths and interests. Don’t be afraid to consider possibilities that may not obviously relate to the practice of medicine. Simply asking yourself what lights you up may spark new ideas and connections. One exercise that can help you discover these connections is a mind map.

3. Seek Guidance and Support

Reach out to mentors and trusted colleagues. You might also choose to work with a coach. Sometimes, an outside perspective can provide valuable insights and help you see possibilities that you may not have considered on your own. While a coach will not tell you what to do next, a coach will help you uncover your own answers. That’s because coaching is a supportive process designed to accelerate your capacity to explore your options and take effective action.

4. Explore Your Options

If you're unsure about the specific direction you want to take, make some time to explore different opportunities and try out new experiences. This could involve taking a course or attending a meeting focused on anything that interests you, volunteering, traveling, or joining an organization or group that resonates with you.

These explorations don’t have to have an obvious connection to the practice of medicine. Experimenting with a variety of options can help you clarify your priorities and identify what intrigues and inspires you.

5. Embrace Flexibility and Adaptability

Your path doesn't have to follow a linear trajectory. It's okay to pivot, change direction, or investigate new opportunities at any stage of your life. Be true to yourself, but keep in mind that it’s always a good idea not to burn any bridges along the way.

When you embrace flexibility, you’ll often find unexpected and even surprising opportunities that may otherwise have gone unnoticed.

6. Take Small Steps

Thinking about a professional change can feel overwhelming, especially for physicians. More than most other professions, we often feel defined by the work that we do.

Remember that you don't have to have all the answers right away. Break down your goals into smaller, manageable steps, and focus on taking action consistently. Simply commit to just one small step at a time.

7. Practice Self-Compassion

Be kind to yourself as you navigate this process. It's normal to feel uncertain or indecisive when you’re facing an important change. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that it's okay not to have all the answers immediately.

Trust in your abilities and know that by putting in the work, you will find your way forward.

As a physician, you have proven that you are resourceful, intelligent, compassionate, and hard working. By taking the time to reflect on your values and goals, seeking guidance and support, exploring and creating your options and opportunities, and embracing flexibility, you will stay open to possibilities, and you will find your way.

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Managing Uncertainty as a Physician

Uncertainty is a fact of life if you are a physician. Patients don’t always get better, there is not always one best choice or right answer, and sometimes our decisions are affected by factors that are completely out of our control.

Managing uncertainty is a skill set that doesn’t come easy for many of us. Perfectionism is likely a way of life, and to be truthful, that’s not always a bad thing. We want to do the best for our patients, we want excellent outcomes, and we want to be acknowledged for the care we provide. But when we set unrealistic standards, it can actually be a barrier to optimal care and to our own well-being.

A recent study examined the connection between tolerance for uncertainty and burnout in 2000 faculty physicians. Not surprisingly, intolerance for uncertainty was associated with a three-fold increased likelihood of burnout.

As you might expect, those who struggled with uncertainty were much less likely to be satisfied with their career, and tended to be less engaged at work. Factors that correlated with a greater intolerance of uncertainty were

• Female gender

• Primary care

• Earlier stage of practice

• Lack of a trusted advisor.

Although these were important risk factors, many men, specialists, and later stage physicians were also burdened by intolerance of uncertainty.

Burnout and physician unhappiness are crucial pain points in our current healthcare environment. Not surprisingly, stress from uncertainty correlates with depression and low levels of resilience. Intolerance of uncertainty has been linked to poorer outcomes and even to increased healthcare costs. And burned out physicians are more likely to leave the practice of medicine.

Our innate perfectionism combined with the prevailing medical culture of stoicism means that physicians may be reluctant to admit that they are dealing with uncertainty. This makes it all the more important for more senior colleagues and mentors to acknowledge that despite all we know and no matter how hard we try, uncertainty will always be a part of the life of a physician. Simply sharing that insight can make it a little easier to come to terms with the fact that we cannot control everything.

Although becoming comfortable with uncertainty may always be a challenge, managing your response to uncertainty can open up opportunities to react to life’s curve balls in ways that are both positive and beneficial to all involved.

In their thorough analysis of the issue, Samuel Reis-Dennis and colleagues describe “three corrective virtues” that might help physicians navigate the challenges that uncertainty creates. These include:

• Courage: avoiding the tendency to run away from threats by developing strategies to cope with new challenges

• Diligence: seeking guidance from trusted colleagues and staying current on the medical literature

• Curiosity: addressing uncertainty by viewing it as an opportunity to learn and grow

It’s not an easy task to recognize the factors that may be holding you back. And it’s even more difficult to be objective and to find your own way while living the unpredictable and demanding life of a physician. Medical schools are increasingly understanding the importance of teaching these skills, but it’s not always enough once you hit the real world. Working with a coach or trusted advisor may help to get you on track, discovering the solutions and opportunities that best fit your needs.

An earlier version of this article originally appeared on this site in July 2022.

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