Rediscovering Your Why: A Road Map for Physicians

An earlier version of this article appeared on this website in November 2023.

If you ever find yourself questioning whether you’ve chosen the right job, the right specialty, or even the right profession, it may help to know that you’re in good company.

Most physicians go through cycles of doubt, revisiting old decisions when things aren’t going well. Times of stress, exhaustion, or disconnection often trigger these seasons of questioning. This type of critical reflection isn’t a sign of failure. Instead, it’s an opportunity for growth and realignment. And with time and support, it often opens a door to greater clarity and purpose.

Of course, dissatisfaction today doesn’t always mean that you need to make a drastic change tomorrow. Perhaps it’s a signal that it’s time to take a break. It may even be a reminder to keep pushing through. Avoiding unease is not always the best choice. Discomfort can be a sign of growth, and sometimes short-term pain and sacrifices are necessary to get you where you want to go.

But if this seems like a theme song that just won’t stop playing, then it might be time to rediscover your why.

Why Your Why Matters

Often when you feel unfulfilled or frustrated at work or in your personal life, it’s because you are not living a life that feels authentic to you.

❓ Perhaps you are trying to live up to someone else’s ideal

❓Maybe your life has moved in a different direction since you first chose your current path

❓It could be the job itself that has changed or not lived up to your expectations

❓Perhaps you simply need to rediscover the reason that you chose to become a physician so many years ago

"Finding your why" is the process of discovering and understanding the deeper purpose or meaning behind your actions, goals, and choices. It's about identifying the core values and beliefs that drive you and give your life a sense of meaning and fulfillment.

This concept is often associated with personal development and leadership, and it's a key element in the philosophy of Simon Sinek, an author who has been hugely influential in the business world. Sinek argues that successful individuals and organizations are those who are able to articulate and align their actions with a clear sense of purpose or "why." In fact, one of Sinek’s most popular books is called Find Your Why.

The idea is that when you have a clear understanding of why you do what you do, it can serve as a powerful motivator and guide for decision-making. It can help you stay focused, overcome challenges, and find a greater sense of satisfaction at work and in your personal life as well.

As Sinek puts it

⭐ Your why is your driving force

⭐ Your how is the actions that you take to bring your why to life

⭐ Your what is the manifestation of your why—the actual work that you do

Once you understand your why, everything else starts to make sense. Your decisions will become clearer and your actions more purposeful and meaningful.

Coming Home to Your Why

Knowing your why is so integral to being a physician that it’s surprising this concept is not routinely taught in medical schools. Discovering your why is not a “one and done”, check-it-off-the-list sort of thing, but it’s logical and easy to understand.

Finding your why involves introspection and reflection. It means clarifying your own unique values, passions, and the impact you want to make on the world. It’s about you, and not somebody else’s version of you. It means going beyond your surface-level goals and digging deeper into the fundamental reasons that drive your choices and actions today.

If those goals and values are different than they were when you started the journey, that’s normal and healthy. Keep excavating until you discover your own truth.

Unearthing Your Why, One Page at a Time

To help you find your why, get a piece of paper or a journal and start writing. You could do this on your computer or your tablet, but writing by hand tends to engage the brain more fully than typing on a keyboard. If paper isn’t your thing, a writable tablet like the Remarkable is a great alternative. Most importantly, choose a method and a time that works for you.

Over the next few weeks, consider taking a few minutes every morning or evening to discover the patterns and thoughts that arise. Here are some questions to get you started. You don’t need to take on all of them. Just pick and choose what is calling to you.

🔍 What do I find fulfilling about my current job?

🔍 What do I not like about my current job?

🔍 What values do I seek to honor in my work and in my life?

🔍 What other goals and aspirations, professional and personal, do I have?

🔍 What are my strengths, my natural talents, my soft skills?

🔍 What strengths and talents would I like to develop further?

🔍 What are the common ideas and threads that run through my life over the years?

🔍 What makes me happy at work, at home, and in my private life?

🔍 What do people thank me for?

🔍 What do I enjoy teaching?

🔍 What do I enjoy learning?

🔍 What keeps me up at night?

🔍 What moves me to take action?

🔍 What is my ideal day?

After sitting with your reflections for a few weeks, try distilling what you’ve discovered into a single, powerful sentence—a personal mission statement that captures the heart of your why. You might start by asking: What do I want to contribute? What kind of impact do I hope to have?

There’s no need for it to be perfect—or permanent. This isn’t about meeting anyone else’s expectations. It’s about articulating something that feels true to you. Your statement may evolve as you allow it room to breathe, but by simply starting, you’ll begin to align your goals with a deeper sense of purpose.

When you know your why, it can shift everything, bringing your actions into alignment with your values and your deeper self. In this way, your own North Star begins to emerge: steady, clear, and sustaining.

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Journaling for Physicians: Find Balance, Gain Clarity, and Envision Your Future

Journaling can help you to perceive the lines that connect the dots. Through this accessible and time-tested form of self-reflection, you can build stronger connections with what and who matters most, At the same time, a writing practice may help you to give name to the obstacles that may be keeping you from living a life aligned with your values and goals.

In previous articles, we’ve explored the way that journaling can help you think through challenges, reflect on the present, and see yourself through your own words and dreams. In this third and final set of journaling prompts for physicians, I offer prompts that you can use to explore your own definition of balance both now and for the future.

As you gain clarity on the ways the diverse branches of your life intertwine, unexpected or creative ways to bring harmony to your work, your personal life, and your passion projects may emerge. Through journaling, you'll gain a deeper understanding of how you want to shape the life you envision. You may even rediscover a path that you lost sight of years ago and find that it is ready to be explored once again.

Finding Balance

1. How do my work, personal projects, family, and relationships influence each other? Are they currently in harmony? If not, what might need to change?

2. What does a balanced and fulfilling life look like to me? How close am I to that vision? What small steps might I take to start the journey?

3. Are there areas of my life (work, personal projects, family, or relationships) that I feel are receiving too much or too little attention? How can I redistribute my time and energy?

4. How do I prioritize between competing demands from work, personal projects, and loved ones? Is this system serving me well?

5. What is one thing I could change this month to better integrate work, personal projects, family, and relationships?

Creating Alignment

1. How do my work and personal projects align with my values and the type of life I want to build for myself, my family and/or my relationships?

2. What shared values or goals do I want to cultivate in my family and/or relationships, and how can my work and personal projects support these?

3. Are there ways I can involve my loved ones in my personal projects or bring my personal passions into my professional life?

4. Are there personal projects that I enjoy or aspire to that could open the door to new and sustaining relationships or communities? If so, how might that look?

Evaluating Impact

1. How does my work affect my personal projects, family, and relationships? Are these effects positive or negative? What adjustments could I make so that the impact is positive and sustaining?

2. How do my personal projects enrich my work, family life, or relationships? Are there new projects I could pursue to strengthen these connections?

3. When was the last time I felt deeply connected to both my professional and personal life simultaneously? What factors contributed to that feeling?

Fostering Connection

1. How do I make space for meaningful connections with my family and/or relationships despite work and personal project commitments? Is there one thing I could do this week to foster a deeper connection?

2. What specific actions can I take to ensure my loved ones feel valued and supported while I also pursue my work and personal goals?

3. How can I communicate my professional and/or personal aspirations and priorities with my family and relationships in a way that strengthens our connection?

Reframing Challenges

1. What challenges arise from balancing work, personal projects, family, and/or relationships? How can I view these challenges as opportunities for growth?

2. How do I handle moments when one area of life feels overwhelming and starts to impact others? What strategies or boundaries might help?

3. Are there sacrifices I’m making in one area of life for another? Are those sacrifices necessary or avoidable?

4. Is there something that I should let go of in order to give space for other opportunities, or for my relationships?

Visioning the Future

1. What would an ideal day look like if I seamlessly integrated work, personal projects, family, and/or relationships? What steps can I take toward that vision?

2. How do I want my work, personal projects, family, and relationships to evolve in the next 5-10 years? What specific actions can I take to guide this evolution?

3. Imagine celebrating a major milestone in my personal or professional life with my loved ones. What does that moment look and feel like, and how can I create more of those moments?

Reflecting on Fulfillment

1. What brings me the deepest sense of fulfillment? How can I prioritize those elements so that it encompasses the people and things that matter the most to me?

2. How do I ensure that my successes in work and personal projects don’t come at the expense of meaningful relationships and family life?

3. What legacy do I want to leave behind in my career, personal life, and relationships? Are my current efforts moving me toward that legacy?

I hope that you’ve enjoyed this journaling series. If you have any prompts that you’d like to share, I’d love to hear from you!

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Journaling Prompts for Physicians: Rediscovering Your Personal Life

In an earlier article, I explored the way that journaling can help you to reconnect with your inner wisdom, helping you to find a path forward when you feel stuck or uncertain. In that article, I delved deeper into the practical mindfulness of journaling, and the benefits of writing by hand, whether in a conventional notebook or a handwriting tablet .

Journaling has been called the “paper mirror.” It reflects back to you, the writer, what you might not see of yourself. Yet unlike a true mirror, the journal’s mirror is private and personal. Given this introspective aspect, it’s not surprising that studies of people engaged in journaling have reported evidence of improvement in both psychological and physical well-being.

Of course, journaling can also resurface unpleasant thoughts and memories. That’s not always bad. Some people find the safe space of their notebook to be a perfect container for catharsis. Getting the words out of your head and onto the page can be uncomfortable, but the process may allow you to let go of those thoughts and fears that are holding you back, freeing up mental space. If it feels right, you might even want to ceremonially destroy your journal once the “bad” stuff is out.

But if it feels overwhelming or resurfaces trauma that you’ve suppressed, then journaling may also be the nudge you need to begin working with a therapist who can help you process complex memories and emotions.

In this article, I am offering prompts that will give you space to dive into your life outside of work. Let them be a scaffolding that helps you to explore the ways that personal projects, family, and relationships might intersect in your life. By intentionally putting your thoughts on paper, you may uncover ideas for mindful action that begin to align these aspects of your life with your ideal self.

Exploring Family Through Journaling

1. How do I currently nurture my relationships with my family? What more could I do?

2. What values do I want to model for my family? How can I live those values more fully?

3. What are some of the most meaningful moments I’ve shared with my family recently? How can I create more moments like those?

4. If I could describe the ideal dynamic I want with my family in one sentence, what would it be?

5. Are there any unresolved tensions or conflicts in my family relationships? How might I approach them with compassion?

6. How does my professional life affect my family life, and are there changes I could make that might bring greater harmony?

7. What are some small ways I can show appreciation to my family this week?

Journaling to Strengthen Relationships

1. Which relationships in my life feel most nourishing? What makes them important to me? How can I deepen those connections?

2. Are there relationships that feel draining or misaligned with my values? What boundaries might I need to set?

3. What does a fulfilling relationship with a romantic partner look and feel like to me? How about a friend? How do my current relationships align with that vision? How can I create more of that?

4. When was the last time I expressed gratitude or love to someone important in my life? How did it feel?

5. Who do I turn to for support, and how can I show them appreciation for being there for me?

6. Are there people I’ve lost touch with who I’d like to reconnect with? What’s one small step I can take this week to reach out?

7. What qualities do I bring to my relationships that make them stronger? How can I lean into those strengths?

8. How can I better communicate my needs, desires, and feelings in my closest relationships?

Empowering Personal Projects

1. What personal project excites me the most right now? What about it feels important or meaningful to me?

2. Are there projects I’ve set aside that I would like to revisit? What’s holding me back?

3. How do my personal projects reflect who I am and who I want to become? Where might they lead me?

4. Is there a skill I’ve been meaning to learn, a book I want to read, a trip I want to take, or something else? What small step can I take this week to make progress on something that I care about?

5. If I had unlimited time and resources, what would I pursue? Why? How might that change my life?

6. How do my personal projects bring a sense of balance to my life, and how can I prioritize them more effectively?

7. What have I learned about myself through my personal projects? What strengths or interests have I uncovered?

Integrating Self, Family, and Community

1. How do my personal projects, family, and relationships influence each other? Are they in harmony or competition?

2. How might the personal projects that inspire me connect me more deeply with people who share my passions and values?

3. What would it look like to balance meaningful work, personal growth, and rich relationships all at once?

4. What’s one thing I can do this week to bring these aspects of myself into greater alignment?

5. How do I want the people closest to me to remember me, and what can I do now to honor that vision?

I hope this list has inspired you. In the next article in this series, I’ll provide you with a series of prompts that will help you go deeper into creating balance, fostering connections, reframing challenges, and envisioning the future.

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Connecting With Your Inner Wisdom: A Journaling Guide for Physicians

With countless demands on your time and attention, it’s easy to lose touch with yourself as you slingshot from one task to the next. This can get you through the day, but after a few months, years, or maybe even decades of living this way, it can be difficult to find your way back to your true self.

I know this, because I experienced this sense of disconnection firsthand. From starting medical school in 1984, through decades of practice, I felt as if I was on a treadmill. I was constantly striving for the next level, whatever that was, and rarely taking a chance to pause or to celebrate. I stayed active, had hobbies and friends, but it all felt pretty frantic. As I began to contemplate my life after cardiology, I wasn’t exactly sure who the “real” me was, or what she wanted next. That’s when I began journaling as a regular practice.

As a full time cardiologist with a busy practice, my days and evenings were highly regimented, with little room to add on yet another task. I was getting nowhere with perseverating over what was making me discontent, and I knew that I needed a way to sort things out.

Journaling was something that I played with over the years, but the habit had never stuck. To be honest, the empty pages always felt a little daunting. So this time, I made a commitment to myself to spend just 10 minutes a day sitting with my thoughts.

The Power of Journaling: A Path Back to Your True Self

Every evening I would pose questions to myself, trying to unravel the knots that I had tied over the years, until I rediscovered the threads that could lead me to my next steps. And remarkably, the process worked! Through introspection and time, I developed a set of goals and a sequence of tiny little steps that got me farther than I ever could have imagined.

This article is the first in a three-part series. In each one, I’ll share a different collection of journaling prompts designed to help you to connect your own dots and rediscover what truly matters to you. Whether you’re exploring a new professional path, planning for retirement, or seeking greater happiness and satisfaction in your life, these prompts will guide you towards clarity and self-awareness.

Getting Started with Journaling

Journaling is a wonderful way to access your own thoughts and values, getting in touch with what matters most to you. It’s a form of mindfulness that doesn’t require any skills or knowledge. All you need is a pen and paper and as few as five minutes.

Why do I say pen and paper, and not a keyboard? Because research has convincingly shown that writing by hand is far more activating for the brain than typing. Newer devices that save and transcribe handwriting, like the reMarkable, may help to bridge the gap between analogue and tech. If writing doesn’t come easily, you could also experiment with dictation. Most important is that you find something that works for you and feels comfortable and natural.  

Journaling to Uncover Your Next Steps

This series of prompts will help you to reflect on your values and your sense of purpose, realigning the trajectory your life into something that feels resonant and clear.

For a kick start, if you haven’t already completed the Values Workbook, this is a great time to begin that exercise. You can get your free copy through my website.

Don’t feel as if you need to take on every prompt. There’s a lot to ponder here! Perhaps choose one or two for the week and see where it takes you.

Exploring Your Values

1. What do I value most about my role as a physician? Are these values reflected in my daily work and life? If not, what changes would need to happen in order for my values to be aligned with my work?

2. If I could describe the legacy I want to leave in one sentence, what would it be? How do I want people to remember me?

3. When have I felt most fulfilled in my career? What about those moments made them meaningful?

Clarifying Your Purpose

1. Why did I choose to become a physician? Does that "why" still resonate with me today? If it has changed, does it still feel true? And if not, what is missing?

2. What parts of my work energize me the most? How can I focus more on these aspects?

3. How does my work align with my personal definition of success? Where am I now in relation to that definition?

Evaluating Your Current Path

1. If my current career trajectory continued for the next 10 years, would I feel proud and content with my life?

2. What sacrifices am I making to sustain my current career path, and are they worth it?

3. Are there aspects of my personal life or passions that I’ve neglected? How can I reintegrate them?

Imagining the Future

1. If I could design my ideal work-life balance, what would it look like? What small steps could I take to get closer to that vision? What could I do today that would start to change things?

2. Imagine a day in your dream life. What are you doing, who are you with, and how do you feel?

3. What skills or interests do I have that I’m not currently using in my career? How might I incorporate them? And what skills do I wish I had? Are they important enough that I want to explore how to acquire them?

Confronting Barriers

1. What fears or doubts are holding me back from making a change I know I need? Are these fears grounded in reality? If so, is there something within my power to change?

2. Who or what am I afraid of disappointing if I follow my heart? How might I address that fear?

3. What is the worst that could happen if I pursued a career change or took on a new role? What strategies could I take to mitigate that? Are there other opportunities that outcome might open up for me?

Building Resilience and Courage

1. When have I faced significant challenges and grown from them? What strengths did I discover?

2. What does courage look like for me right now? How can I embody it in my decisions?

3. Who in my life inspires me to live authentically? What lessons can I learn from them?

Finding Alignment

1. Are there moments in my work when I feel disconnected from my authentic self? How can I realign?

2. How do I want to feel at the end of each day? What changes would help me experience that feeling more often?

3. What small, actionable steps can I take this week to bring more meaning into my work and life?

Cultivating Gratitude and Joy

1. What aspects of my career am I most grateful for? How can I focus more on these positives?

2. When was the last time I felt joy in my personal or professional life? What contributed to that moment?

3. What can I do today to make space for more joy and connection in my life?

In the next article in this series, I’ll share prompts to guide your exploration of personal projects, family connections, and meaningful relationships. The final article of the series explores journaling to envision your future.

If these prompts have been useful, or if you have some of your own that you’d like to share, drop me a line! I’d love to hear from you.

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