Getting Unstuck: How a Simple Mind Shift Can Move Your Life Forward

If you’re a physician, you’re probably juggling patient care, administrative tasks, and personal responsibilities like a boss. But when you feel the need for something beyond the daily routine, it can feel daunting.

Whether it’s getting up to speed with a new procedure, launching a research study, trying to get some time for self-care, or considering making a complete change of practice or location, it’s easy to feel like you’re stuck in an endless loop, unable to break free.

In my practice as a physician coach, I frequently encounter these common challenges. It can seem overwhelming from the inside looking out. But there is a way through, and it begins with understanding why you feel stuck.

In this article, I’ll explore common reasons that physicians feel immobilized, and I’ll offer you some strategies that will get you moving forward with purpose.

Break the Cycle of Repetition

Doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results, is not only the classic definition of insanity but it’s also a common trap. Whether it's procrastinating on completing notes, avoiding difficult conversations, or never saying no, these habits can perpetuate your feelings of frustration and stagnation.

Routine can be comforting, since you know what to expect, but it may also be a barrier to growth. When you’re caught up in an endless cycle of repetitive tasks, it’s easy to lose sight of what matters the most to you.

Strategy: Starting small can open up a crack that allows you to see a little more light. As simple as it sounds, begin by introducing small changes in your routine. This could mean taking a different route to work, setting aside just 10 minutes a day to walk or stretch, or incorporating new learning into your practice. Sometimes, the smallest adjustments can lead to significant shifts in perspective and outcomes.

Spring Free of the Inaction Trap

If you don’t take action, you will not get yourself unstuck. It’s that simple. But the fear of making the wrong decision often squashes the potential for change. That doesn’t mean it’s not important to think through your decisions. Be thoughtful and judicious, but don’t get stuck in an infinite cycle of analysis. Realize that taking action can mean taking the smallest of steps.

Strategy: Embrace the concept of ‘progress, not perfection.' Understand that inaction is a decision in itself, and it can be more harmful to your wellbeing and your future opportunities than making an imperfect decision. Start with very small, manageable actions that align with your goals and gradually increase the stakes as you build confidence.

Unaddressed Issues

Not dealing with problems as they arise means that they are given free rein to accumulate. Eventually these unresolved issues may begin to feel overwhelming. And as a consequence, this drag on your energy will make it harder to move forward. Whether it's patient care issues, administrative challenges, or personal matters, avoiding problems doesn't make them disappear.

Strategy: Commit to a proactive approach. Tackle important issues as they arise. You don’t need to solve every pressing problem on the fly. But by putting it in its place, it won’t be overlooked. That could mean delegating, scheduling committed time to address the issue, or even saying no. This not only prevents important issues from escalating but also builds a habit of facing challenges with purposeful action.

The Burden of Incomplete Tasks

Like unresolved issues, incomplete notes and tasks can be a significant source of mental load, leading to a feeling of being perpetually behind and unable to move forward. This is a very common issue for physicians, and one of the most important ones to get a handle on quickly. Your own well-being as well as your patients’ care depends on it.

Strategy: Get those notes done. Use templates, smart phrases, and any other resources available to you to make your notes concise, accurate, and useful. Prioritize and delegate the other tasks crowding your in-box. Addressing each task once and moving on, keeping your responses brief and succinct will help you get through your list. Consider adopting time management techniques, such as the Pomodoro Technique or time-blocking, to efficiently tackle your workload.

The Value Dilemma

Objectively, you probably know you’re valued. Despite the turmoil that many physicians face every day, your patients need you, and the work you do makes a difference.

But it’s easy to undervalue yourself, undermining your self-confidence. You’re not alone. Not believing in one’s own value is a common issue that affects how many doctors perceive their abilities and their worth. And as a result, you may miss opportunities, fail to stand up for yourself, put up with toxic working conditions, or take on projects that go against your won best interests.   

Strategy: Practice self-reflection and affirmation. Remind yourself of your achievements and the unique value you bring to your patients and the medical field. Journaling can be a very useful exercise. Keep a folder or a box with notes from patients and others who express appreciation and give yourself a few moments to revisit this when you’re feeling down.

Seek feedback from peers and mentors when you need it and consider engaging with a coach to build self-confidence and set achievable and meaningful goals.

Conforming to Expectations

Playing to other people's narratives is a common trap that can lead you down a path that doesn't align with your values or aspirations, leaving you feeling stuck in an unfulfilling or ill-fitting role. This is another theme that plays out for so many physicians. It often begins with family expectations, and it may eventually become a way of life.

Strategy: Define your own success. Take time to reflect on what success means to you, independent of anyone else’s expectations. Setting personal and professional goals based on your values and aspirations will ensure that your actions align with who you are and how you want to live your life.

Moving Forward

Feeling stuck doesn’t have to be a way of life. By understanding the underlying reasons and adopting targeted strategies, you can navigate your way out of the quicksand of stagnation.

Take the time to understand your value and remind yourself of the resilience that got you this far. Think of change as a catalyst. Create and then begin to implement a plan to take action, one step after another. Remind yourself that fulfillment is a process that can lead to unexpected growth and opportunities.

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